God uses our questions to grow our relationship with Him. However, when you ask God questions, you may find several questions have several possible answers to them. Here you need to ask God to help you discern, by the power of His Spirit, which answer is correct or which answer is most correct. Understand that sometimes several answers may be correct and none of the answers may be correct. A lot of times it may depend on how the question is worded. Be sensitive to how a question is stated or phrased as the question may be designed to cause you to question your relationship with God. These types of questions are purposefully destructive, and the only way to combat them is to compare the question to what you DO know about God, not what you don’t know.
Sometimes it may even feel like God is not or does not want to answer your questions. You pray and ask, but it feels like your prayers are bouncing off a brick wall. For example, you may be going through a struggle and have reached out to God many times over the last several days, but it feels like He is not answering your prayers. You start to wonder, does God know I’m hurting? If so, then why doesn't He answer me? The answer here can be complicated to ascertain, but I have a few suggestions for you.
1) Look for sin in your life, any sin. These are usually big ones like not being obedient to Him. For example, maybe you are living with your girlfriend or boyfriend and still having sex outside of marriage. Something God forbids you to do. Now, if you are unwilling to obey Him, then why would He answer your prayer (question)? That is not to say that He can’t, or He won't. It may be that He is delaying His answer because He wants you to pay attention to the sin in your life and be as repulsed by it as He is. Your first and foremost desire should be for your relationship with Him, and to do everything in your power to maintain that relationship. You must passionately desire to be obedient to Him. Perhaps He is just trying to teach you that lesson or make you aware of how important that is.
2) God may be trying to Grow you. God may be trying to grow you in the area of learning to trust Him. Trusting God is easy when things are going well. However, trusting Him becomes tremendously more difficult when we are struggling. When we are in the middle of a trial, God may be delaying His answer to your prayer because He wants to see if what you say, "I trust Him," is true. Now God knows whether this is true or not, but you may not know it is true. The only way for Him to validate this for you is to set your life on fire a little. Maybe not a three-alarm fire, but a little brush fire here or there. Will you trust Him in and through the fire?
I did not do very well on this test. When my first special needs son was born, a small brush fire broke out in my life. I kind of, sort of, dealt with that, but not confidently. I left it smoldering on the side. Then when my second special needs son was born, the smoldering fire from my first son broke out all around me in flames. I chose anger towards God, over trust. Take my advice: that is NEVER the correct choice!
3) Walk thru, don’t live in the struggle. God may want you to walk through this struggle. Notice I said "walk" through it, do not live in it! Sometimes He doesn't take us out of a struggle, but rather walks with us through a struggle. A good example of this would-be Pastor Greg Laurie of Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside, California and his wife, Cathe, when they lost their son Christopher in a tragic car accident on July 24, 2008. Unless you have gone through something like this, you cannot fathom the pain of losing a loved one, especially a child. Pastor Greg and Cathe are faithfully serving Gods Kingdom. Why would a loving God allow their son to die? I'm not God, so I do not know the answer to this question, but I do know who God is. He is loving, He is kind, He is Holy, He is sovereign, He is righteous, and so much more. Because He is all these things, I can trust that He knows what He's doing. Greg and Cathe gave us an example by living it. Their hearts were not just broken; they were shattered. But they walked with Him through it. Through the hurt, through the pain, through the challenge of understanding. There was no way over it, around it, or under it. The only way for them to go was through it with God. To be honest, I have no idea how someone can go through something like that without Him.
When we walk with Him through these challenges, through these struggles, we can then see Him do some amazing things, not only in our lives but also in other people's lives and for His Kingdom. I'm sure Greg and Cathe would love to have their son back, I know I would love to have two "healthy" boys rather than two boys with special needs. However, if I ask myself honestly if I would trade what God has done in my life, my boys lives, and all of the other lives they have touched, for them to be "healthy," I would honestly say, “No I would not.” Why? Simply, why would I exchange a known entity for an unknown one? Besides, I will have more time with them in eternity with them being healthy than this brief period where they are disabled.
4) Are you asking the wrong question? Or asking the question incorrectly? You may be asking the wrong question or asking the question incorrectly. Your first clue to this will always be the word "why." If you are asking Him, why, I can almost guarantee that you are asking the wrong question. Again, instead of asking Him why, ask Him “what” and “how.” ‘What are you trying to teach me in this?" and "How do you want me to respond to this?" These questions are so much better for you than "why."
5) Be genuinely interested in knowing God’s truth. Sincere questions mean you are genuinely interested in knowing God's truth. Understand, this doesn't mean you will like His truth or even agree with His truth. It does mean, that, when you are sincere, you will accept His truth and adopt it as your own when He reveals it to you, regardless of what you, the world, or anyone else thinks. If for some reason you do not do this, or you refuse to do this, then your very act of refusal confirms your hypocrisy and insincerity!
I'm sorry. I know that is a strong statement and the last thing I want to do is offend people. However, if you are unwilling to accept and adopt His truth as your own then what will that say about your relationship with Him? You see, how you respond to God, and His truth has everything to do with your relationship with Him.
Perspective #56: How you respond to God, and His truth has everything to do with your relationship with Him.
6) Cooperate with God. Finally, cooperate with God, partner with Him and then see what He can do with your life and in your life as you fall more and more in love with Him. Understand, this cooperation, this partnership will take two forms, these are the two forms Jesus boiled everything down to. Love God and Love others. Keep you focus on these two things and you will be amazed at the difference He makes in your life and the impact you have in other peoples lives.